What I've learned after three major weight gains and losses (and many fluctuations in between)
I've had three major weight gains and losses, and many fluctuations.
1) Mostly it was my relationship to food and eating that needed healing. Re-sensitizing my hunger and fullness signals and exploring why I consistently ate past fullness. Emotional eating is a huge topic. It's deeply primal and not talked about enough.
2) If I don't love my movement practice, it's dead in the water. I need to LOVE my workouts or else I just really will not stick with it. Group fitness classes are where it's at for me. I love sweating with other women.
3) Discipline and willpower do NOT motivate me. They immediately create rebellion. I noticed that whenever I had butterflies from a new relationship, an exciting project that lit me up, or felt super in love with my life, caring for my body felt easy and automatic.
4) Momentum is magical. When I'm in the flow of exercise, restorative care, and eating nourishing foods and pleasure foods in a balanced ratio, I stay in that flow.
The opposite is also true.
5) Lasting change and equilibrium weren't possible for me until I created safety in my body. I needed to build trust, reverence for my body in the moment before results, and confidence that I wouldn't slip back into damaging patterns of self-soothing.
There's really no one-size-fits-all approach, and your relationship to food, movement, and the emotional/energetic aspects of all of it is so personal and layered.
I think willpower, discipline, restriction, and white knuckling lead to tears, not long-term change.
It’s not discipline; it’s devotion. Especially for those of you with the inherent rebellious nature. Once we tell ourselves we're not enough as we are, the internal uproar/sabotage has already begun lol.
I haven't shared my weight gain and loss journey in a really long time (have I ever really even? Probably in the embodied beauty podcast).
There's SO much to say here but I wanted to just start the conversation and see where you were at.
If you feel like I'm speaking right to you, and you're looking for personalized support around beauty, your body, and self-care, EVOLUTION is my one-to-one mentorship. Send me an email to inquire.
