If you’re judging yourself for caring “too much” about your appearance, this is for you

A lot of the thoughts consuming you aren't because you’re being shallow, perfectionistic, or have unrealistic standards.

I think they're often grief.

Grief for what you once were or could have been.

Grief for what you once had or could have had.

Grief for what you fear you may not have in the future.

The interesting thing about grief is that it's alive and shifting.

It softens and eases when you allow it.

When you hold yourself tenderly through it.

What do you do for someone who's grieving?

You nurture them.

You bring them the kind of care that creates ease, comfort, and safety.

You wrap your arms around them.

You remind them they're loved.

You remind them that it's going to be okay.

Can you offer yourself that same tenderness when you're feeling triggered?

I think the balm for grief is connection

Connection to yourself, and connection to your community.

The kind of care that reminds your body it's safe: warm baths, comfy clothing, coziness, softness, and gentle touch.

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