The double edged sword of beauty
If you’ve been told your whole life that you’re beautiful, you’re probably aware of the double-edged sword of it. The “complex relationship” we have with it. The “plight of the beautiful woman” and “the burden.” Not everyone will understand it, be able to talk about it, or hold space for you. You may even feel embarrassed sharing your feelings around it.
But there is some real suffering and stress and pressure that comes with it, so let’s shine some light on it:
Does any of this feel familiar?
Feeling significant fear or stress that you’re going to “lose your looks”, because “of course it can’t last” and since it’s something that’s very valuable about you, find yourself gripping and trying to control it.
You hold yourself to ridiculously high standards of perfection (but you don’t hold anyone else to those same standards).
You oscillate between loving your beauty, and consciously or unconsciously self-sabotaging because it’s too much “pressure” to maintain.
You find yourself swinging between full-on rejection of your beauty and being full-on obsessed with it and doing the most of everything to enhance/maintain it.
Find yourself minimizing yourself to make others comfortable and safe in your presence. You’ve felt rejection from other girls and women and make yourself smaller and safer and more likable to feel acceptance and closeness.
You feel guilty or shameful when you aren’t being “perfect” and doing everything possible to preserve your beauty. If you like a drink or two, if you like to smoke a little w**d here and there, if you’re eating some sugar and using your body like a normal human it causes stress.
You self-isolate on days you feel unattractive.
You have a complex relationship with men and find beauty “unsafe” at times from years of being over-sexualized (especially during development).
Girl I really understand you. And no you don’t have to feel like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world or “model status” to have some version of this.
It’s your birthright to experience your beauty as amazing, and pleasurable, and just a natural extension of who you are. It’s not everything that you are, but you get to allow yourself to love it, without the sticky, stressful, looming darkness of it.
I’m here to help you through these challenging feelings and move into your ecstatic true nature of fully enjoying your beauty RIGHT NOW in the present moment, and living your VENUS ERA.
There’s much to be understood, unraveled, and healed in YOU personally in order to start living your fullest expression of your beauty.
But guess what - it gets to be fun! It gets to feel like a breath of fresh air into your lungs renewing your lease on life and experience in this gorgeous present moment.
And I want this for you so badly. Join the FREE Embodied Beauty Activation to get started.