No, you don’t need more “willpower”
Hi beautiful one… I hope you’ll open your heart to this message and fully feel it, because I’ve got something that’s going to fundamentally shake you. In a good way…
There are multiple sides of you. There’s YOU, and there’s HER - your SHADOW SELF.
And I’m willing to bet that you’re probably not conscious of how often your shadow self is driving and controlling your life.
Because for many years I didn’t.
You probably think that the insecure, self-critical inner voice is YOUR voice.
The voice that compares your body, your appearance, and your life to others and tells you you’re not enough.
The voice that holds you to INSANE standards.
The voice that drives you to want to sooth yourself with self-sabotaging behaviors like doom scrolling, skin-picking, overeating and self-avoidance.
The voice that tells you that it’s too scary and unsafe to show up in your business powerfully or have boundaries with your family and friends.
Have you ever considered that the self-critical voice inside you, isn’t actually the real YOU?
Have you ever thought it was odd that you could be having just a normal day, and then something in your Instagram feed triggers you (a woman with a “perfect” body, or life, or relationship etc) and SUDDENLY your energy completely tanks and now you feel awful about yourself and like you’re not enough?
10 minutes ago, you were fine and now you're a failure…
Have you ever wondered why you’ve never had the “willpower” to make lasting changes, and behavior shifts to transform your body, your relationships, your bank account… It's because willpower is not a thing. And it’s no match for the shadow self. The only true motivation shift is the alternative being sweeter and more compelling than needing soothing in the moment.
I’m asking you to really reflect on this and just consider that you’ve been hijacked WAY more than you’ve realized, and that this is great news. Because now you have awareness.
And the REAL TRUTH - is that she’s here to PROTECT YOU! She’s not bad, she’s misunderstood.
For the past few weeks, I’ve been deeply immersed in exploring, understanding, and befriending my shadow side. I’ve been studying her, watching for her to come out and observing her triggers and behaviors. I've been listening to her and working with her. I’ve even given her a dark sexy name - “OLIVIA”
Olivia almost kept me from writing this email. She’s a perfectionist who tells me “No one is going to care, or read this, you won’t get your point across anyway, why don’t you open the fridge and root around in there instead. How about you scroll Instagram instead? Showing up is hard and scary and too much work.”
I call bullshit. She doesn’t get to run the show anymore, so here I am. And we're dancing together.
And I’m SUPER EXCITED to invite you to:
THE SHADOWS
~ A transformative guided journey to meet your shadow self—the side of you responsible for self-critical thoughts, body image triggers, and self-sabotaging behaviors like overeating, perfectionism, skin picking, and self-avoidance.
~ This empowering session will help you finally break free from the patterns that are holding you back, and reclaim your power to become your happiest, healthiest, and most successful self.
~ Receive the energetic support, healing, and guidance to create real distance and separation between she, and you.
It’s going to feel safe, peaceful, and even fun! I’ll guide you and support you every step of the way.
And once you know your shadow, you can consciously take your life back.
Talk about main character energy.
Details:
💫TO JOIN THE SHADOWS: Become an Inner Beauty Circle Member: JOIN HERE
📅 WE MEET LIVE DECEMBER 18th
🕒 12 PM EST
📍 Held via Zoom (link available in the Inner Beauty Circle Community under “EVENTS”)
~ The replay will live within the DEEP BEAUTY ENERGETICS course.
PS - Olivia also didn’t want me to record this podcast episode: Ep. 36 - Meet your SHADOW: from self-criticism and sabotage to empowerment - but we did it anyway and it’s FIRE!